How to be confident

Confidence is a tricky, tricky little thing. Feeling good about yourself is so easy to put at the will of others when it should only be up to you. The good news is that you’re driving this self-assurance train and it’s ready to depart from the station.Part One of Three:
Appearing Confident
1 Look the part.
 Or, as the saying goes, “fake it ’til you make it.” If you know that you look like a confident, capable person, eventually you’ll start to feel it, too. You should dress how you feel best — not what you think confident is. Try these tricks:
  * Devote a little time each day to personal hygiene and making sure you’re presenting yourself well. Shower
 daily, brush andfloss your teeth
, and groom your skin and hair.
  * Dress for confidence. You don’t have to buy a whole new wardrobe to feel better in your clothes. As long as you’re clean, comfortable, and feel good, you’re set up for confidence! Remember, you look more confident when you are enjoying what you wear!
  * After all, you wouldn’t wear a three-piece suit on a pizza delivery. If you think you look good, odds are you probably do.
2Perfect your posture. How you carry yourself communicates a lot to other people, so make sure you’re telling them that you’re confident and in-charge. Keep your shoulders back, your spine straight, and your chin high. Walk with purpose instead of dragging your feet, and sit up straight. When you look like a confident person on the outside, you’ll be approached as one by the world around you.
  * You won’t only fool everyone else — you’ll fool yourself too. Recent research shows that the positioning of your body cues your mind to feel a certain way — so positioning yourself confidently will make you genuinely feel in charge. And to top it off, having confident body language has been linked to lower levels of stress, too. [1]
3Smile
. Keep your grin in easy reach — you’d be surprised how even the smallest of smiles can disarm many a social situation and make everyone feel more comfortable. In fact, research shows that smiling reduces stress hormones in the brain. Can you imagine approaching someone who’s scowling? No, thank you.
  * If you’re worried your smile is fake, keep it small. A fake smile can be spotted from a mile away. On the other hand, if you’re genuinely happy to see them — or just happy for the chance to practice your new confidence skills — flash those pearly white teeth.
4Make eye contact
. It’s a subtle change, but it can work wonders on how other people perceive you. Don’t be afraid to meet the gaze of someone else; it shows not only that you are a person worthy of communicating with, but it tells them you respect them, acknowledge their presence, and are interested in the conversation. You don’t want to be rude, do you?!
  * Our eyes are uniquely human. They are windows to the soul, if you will, and showcase our attention and feelings. By making eye contact, you will improve the quality of your interactions in addition to appearing more confident. In fact, you’ll come off as more likeable and trustworthy and those who converse with you will feel more appreciated.[2]
 If you can’t do it for you, do it for them!
5Have approachable body language. If you see a person huddled in the corner pretending to play games on their mobile phone, are you really going to come up and say hello? Probably not. If you want others to approach you, make sure you’re approachable!
  * Keep your body open. If you have your arms and legs crossed, you’re telling the world that you’re not interested in welcoming them in. Same goes for your face and hands — if it’s clear you’re preoccupied with something else (be it a thought or your iPhone), people will take the hint.
6Hold your gaze. Now that you’ve got the eye contact thing down, it’s time to put it into practice. Did you know that other people are just as shy about eye contact as you are? Try this out: make eye contact with someone and see who lasts longer. Do they avert their gaze before you? See?! They’re uncomfortable too!
  * wikiHow isn’t advocating staring someone down, you know. Staring intensely at someone until they feel your gaze and shrink accordingly due to palpable awkwardness is not the goal. The goal is, however, to recognize that other people are just as nervous about you looking at them as you are about them looking at you. If you get caught, just smile. You’re off the hook.

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