wikiHow to Interact With People
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Step 1 below to get on your way to happy, smooth interactions.Part One of Four:
1Identify your hesitancy. Why aren’t you interacting with people now? Are you interacting with people but feel like you’re doing it wrong? If you can identify the problem, it will go a long way towards helping you overcome it. In the meantime, try the advice below.
Overcome your social anxiety
. For many people, interacting with others is stressful. If you get worried about talking to people, you may want to focus on coping with your anxiety first.
3Believe in yourself
. If you are afraid that you will fail to make friends, or that you will constantly upset people, you’re going to have a very hard time interacting with others. Believe in yourself and you will find interactions getting easier and easier.
4Build your self-esteem
. If you spend a bunch of time thinking that no one will want to talk with you because they’re so much better than you are, you’ll miss out on a wonderful world of interaction! Spend some time realizing how amazing you are and you’ll see the world in a different light.
Lack of self-confidence can make it really hard to interact with people, often because others sense that you are not confident and that makes them nervous. Build your self-confidence or at least learn how to fake it in order to make others like you more.
6Practice. As with any skill (and social interaction is definitely a skill), you can get better at it by practicing. Practice your social skills by using them as much as possible. You can start by interacting with family members or even just strangers that you see, like grocers and bank tellers.AdvertisementPart Two of Four:
. When interacting with someone for the first time, it’s a good idea to introduce yourself. Where in the conversation you introduce yourself, however, will depend on the individual conversation.
* Walking up to a stranger and introducing yourself before saying anything else makes it seem like you’re selling something (or just weird).
* Introducing yourself when you first meet someone at a party, however, is a good idea. Especially if it’s an official function, like a work party.